PairShaped Coaching https://pairshapedcoaching.com/ A Couple Coaching Couples Tue, 16 Jul 2024 07:30:24 +0000 en-ZA hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.1 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/cropped-Pairshaped-Site-Icon-001-32x32.png PairShaped Coaching https://pairshapedcoaching.com/ 32 32 Loving Detachment https://pairshapedcoaching.com/loving-detachment/ Tue, 16 Jul 2024 07:20:13 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=604 Being detached is often seen as a negative. In certain contexts, it is a faulty response. Let’s say for instance you break up with your partner of 5 years and merely say ‘oh well’, shrug your shoulders and sign up on Tinder all on the same day. That kind of detachment is definitely not healthy. […]

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]]> Acceptance: The super power of relationships https://pairshapedcoaching.com/acceptance-the-super-power-of-relationships/ Tue, 31 Oct 2023 07:57:42 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=587 Why can’t we all just get along? This famous question has been asked many times by many people. Couples ask this of themselves regularly in our work with them. The simple answer is that we are different from our partners and we have trouble making sense and coming to terms with that fact. We want […]

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]]> Healing Your Relationship https://pairshapedcoaching.com/healing-your-relationship/ Tue, 31 Oct 2023 07:53:58 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=585 Couples come to us because they want a better relationship. They want to learn how to communicate or they want their partner to appreciate them more or they want to learn how to trust again after a betrayal. They want healing for their relationship, and they want to move forward with a set of tools […]

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]]> People-pleasing vs Compromise https://pairshapedcoaching.com/people-pleasing-vs-compromise/ Mon, 14 Aug 2023 06:00:20 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=566 Most of the couples that we work with are made up of two individuals who are usually very different. They have different wants, needs and perspectives and often come to us feeling misunderstood and dissatisfied. We talk about “finding the middle ground” and we ask the question, “Are you willing to take a step towards […]

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]]> Supporting your Partner who has been Emotionally Triggered https://pairshapedcoaching.com/supporting-your-partner-who-has-been-emotionally-triggered/ Thu, 10 Aug 2023 06:00:42 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=564 If you find yourself in a situation where your partner has been emotionally triggered… Actually let me change that to WHEN you are in a situation where your partner has been emotionally triggered, it’s helpful to work on staying grounded and not taking your partners emotional reaction personally. I know that Heather has had to […]

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]]> Does a Healthy Relationship mean No Conflict? https://pairshapedcoaching.com/does-a-healthy-relationship-mean-no-conflict/ Sat, 05 Aug 2023 06:00:13 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=562 ‘I just want us to be happy and not fight anymore!’ This is often the desperate plea of couples who come in to see us for coaching. Completely understandable when the relationship has broken to such a degree that every conversation turns into a screaming match. It is normal to just want for the arguments […]

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]]> We are Different https://pairshapedcoaching.com/we-are-different/ Tue, 01 Aug 2023 06:00:50 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=557 In the beginning stages of a relationship everything feels fresh and new. As we spend time with our partners, we get to know them. We find that we share many personality traits and values. There will be many ways in which we differ too. These differences may seem cute and interesting at first but over […]

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]]> Resentment: The Ultimate Poison https://pairshapedcoaching.com/resentment-the-ultimate-poison/ Sat, 17 Jun 2023 13:33:39 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=136 I have been in relationships that are riddled with resentment. Mine and theirs, both equally destructive. There is nothing that taints the present more than holding onto resentments from the past. Filtering everything through a lens of anger, assumption and pain. Assuming that because you’ve been hurt in the past, you’re going to get hurt […]

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]]> Can a relationship survive without trust? https://pairshapedcoaching.com/can-a-relationship-survive-without-trust/ Sat, 17 Jun 2023 13:08:24 +0000 https://pairshapedcoaching.com/?p=133 Can a house stand without a solid foundation? The simple answer is, “No, it can’t.” Your relationship, like an unstable house, might last for a while – until a big storm or some of life’s challenges come along. If you don’t have trust as your foundation, you will fall. You may think communication is the […]

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